The 6 Needs that drive our success in life.
1. Certainty that we can avoid pain and at the very least be comfortable.
2. Uncertainty - we need variety, we need surprises. The surprises we don't want we call problems - but we need them.
3. Significance - we all need to feel important, special, unique.
4. Connection and Love
5. We need to Grow
6. To contribute beyond ourselves.
Which one of these is your primary need? We are all different and have one particular need above all the rest.
The second thing we need to understand is what our map is. How are we going to achieve our primary need? Some people may achieve significance through dying. For example a fire department officer may be willing to give his life to save another and find significance. A different person may want to kill to find his significance. 9/11 is an example of this.
The third thing we need to get in touch with is our emotions. If you put a group of people into a room to experience the same event, guilty people would get guilty, sad people would get sad, angry people would get angry. We all have a primary emotional focus in our life.
Explore your web (within your mind) - the needs, your map, the beliefs, the emotions that are controlling you. You need to do this for two reasons - so there's more of you to give and secondly so you can appreciate what's driving other people. How can you combine all of these aspects to achieve what you need?
Check out this inspiring TED talk by Tony Robbins...
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